Comments on: An open letter to a stay-at-home-Mum

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 27 May 2009 02:37:24 +0000

We live in a world where women are now able to make choices. We no longer live in the 1950’s where women quit there jobs as they get married to take care of their homes, and then later their children. I think it is naive to think that all women think the same way. Not all women can stay at home with their kids! and, Not all women want to stay at home with the kids!

At the heart of it, I think it is really important to own our decisions. Whether to stay home with the kids, or to be out in the world working! It is important to remember that ALL mums work hard – some women seem to have the energy and ability to work and parent. I know that I am unable to do this.

My husband and I together decided that the best thing for our family was for me to be at home with the kids. I find it offensive for anyone to say that stay at home mums stay at home and criticise others etc. I am not a smothering mother!

My career choice was to become a stay at home mum. I don’t care if my mum friends who work bring a bought cake or packet of biscuits because to me the issue is about doing the best for our families and not all of us are great cooks! I’m not!

I think that the war between the working mums and the stay at home mums should stop. Frankly, it is unfounded and a waste of time and energy. Instead we should be looking out for each other and helping each other where we can. Parenthood is hard for both demographic groups. I think it is pointless for us to judge and criticise when we live in such an uncertain world.

Cheers, ey!

By: Coal Miner's Granddaughter

Coal Miner's Granddaughter — Tue, 12 May 2009 17:58:16 +0000

We absolutely cannot lump mothers and fathers together simply because we’re mothers and fathers. “Oh! You have a child? Well then OBVIOUSLY you want to stay at home!” We all have different financial needs, different emotional needs, and different expectations about our lives. I know people who work and wish they could stay home. I know people who stay home and wish they could work. And I know people who stay at home or who work and are perfectly happy where they are. And no child turned into a serial killer from staying with a parent full time or from going to day care every week day.

People just need to chill and not get in each other’s business. That’s actually the real problem here.

Coal Miner’s Granddaughters last blog post..What? The Hell.

By: lora

lora — Tue, 12 May 2009 17:38:22 +0000

well thank you! that's the nicest thing I've heard all day. I rarely ever check back to comments that I leave, but I was dying to know what everyone else had to say about all this. loras last blog post..

By: Jessica K

Jessica K — Tue, 12 May 2009 04:19:50 +0000

Hey AFM! I just came by to catch up on you guys, and this is the post I hit! lol. Bad timing, huh? I didn't read any of the comments above, cause it's late, and I should be in bed already, but I just want to say, don't judge us all by one jerk! As your polar opposite on this planet, I think you and DrO'C are wonderful parents, and I'm sorry that this person made you feel judged. Jessica Ks last blog post..Easter Weekend

By: Gypsy

Gypsy — Mon, 11 May 2009 23:08:04 +0000

I couldn't agree with you more, Chris. I don't have kids, so what do I know, but still... I'm with you. Gypsys last blog post..My people

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admin — Sun, 10 May 2009 01:29:20 +0000

The two comments above got picked up by my spam filter (crazy filter). I thought about trashing them, but figured what the hell – free speech and all. I’ve changed nothing but the time stamp so they appear together.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 10 May 2009 00:25:37 +0000

I have been both a SAHM and a working Mom. I hated staying at home. Most of the SAHMs I know spend their days smothering their kids, watching daytime TV and bitching about other Moms. They’re self-righteous and judgmental. They complain to their husbands about all the work they have to do at home, but complain that they are bored. Their kids are spoiled brats. Since I went back to work, I am happier and my kids are happier. They love day care and I would NEVER go back to staying at home.

By: Pill popping SAHM

Pill popping SAHM — Sun, 10 May 2009 00:25:27 +0000

I pity your children. Children aren’t the center of the universe, but they should certainly be the center of the household. All of this talk about ‘wasting your education’ or getting behind in you career is selfishness and trying to make yourself feel better about having strangers raise your children. Young children don’t need socialization, they need the comfort of a mother and father. Try to justify it as much as you can, it all comes down to the fact that you’re too selfish to raise your children in the way that God inteneded.