I have been trying to think of ways to describe the unique sound of a plastic cascade of Lego tumbling from its appropriate receptacle onto the floor. If you’re a parent or like me, a childhood afficianado of Lego, you know what I’m talking about. There is no other sound like it. It likely strikes fear into the heart of the parent who obsesses over a tidy household, but for me it strikes a chord of joy.
I loved Lego as a kid and was the proud owner of garbage pail full of thousands of bits and pieces. I don’t know how many hours I spent on the living room floor constructing imaginary empires of small plastic Danish blocks. The first time I heard the distinctive Lego sound in my own house, happy memories of those long gone hours came flooding back. We had bought Boy Z a box full of used Duplo for his second birthday on eBay. Used because, well have you seen the price of that stuff new?
He didn’t get into the Lego much straightaway, but in the last few weeks he’s been pulling it out on a daily basis. That crashing cascade of Lego is almost always followed by a hopeful request to help him build houses. And I am overjoyed to serve as an assistant contractor. I don’t like to shill for any product, but Lego is a springboard for an active imagination. I love to watch him starting to put together elaborate scenarios as we build more and more intricate houses, towers and castles. This is the stuff that makes all those 2 a.m. wakeup calls worthwhile.
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I’m thinking that A Free Man has reached its sell-by date. Posts have been sparse around here of late. That isn’t because I’m suffering from writer’s block or that I’ve run out of things to write about, it’s because I’ve run out of things that I’m comfortable about writing in this forum. Despite it’s apparent anonymity, too many people know who I am – family, high school acquaintances, annoyingly determined students (shouldn’t you guys be studying for that exam?). Apparently you can type my first name, my city of residence and my job into Google and this is the first hit.
I’ve been struggling with this for some time and I think I’ve finally come up with a solution – a new blog. A secret little box for all the things I can’t write here. I know, I know. I can barely get a post a week up over here, but I’d like to think that with a mask I’ll be able to be a bit more prolific. I guess we’ll see.
I’m not shutting this site down, I’m just going to keep it as what it was originally intended to be. An innocuous Daddy Blog. I’m not going to link to or publicise the new site, that would rather defeat the purpose. You can ask for the new address, but don’t be offended if I don’t give it to you. That likely means that I know you in real life or like you too much to let you in on the darker corners of my mind.

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I have no idea where I got this Decemberists cover of Malvina Reynolds’ “Little Boxes”, but it featured on the opening credits of the wonderful “Weeds” – a show to which Dr. O’C and I have become addicted.
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by alice
22 Jan 2010 at 00:20
Me too! Legos rule!!! I still love them (as you probably know).
(Wouldn’t mind the link… won’t blogroll it — just to add to the rss feed!)
by alice
22 Jan 2010 at 00:21
Oh, and a me too, too, with regard to “Little Boxes” and “Weeds!”
by jen
22 Jan 2010 at 00:31
what? you give your children toys that *require the use of imagination*??! how cruel
would love to continue to read your newest stuff, if you feel like sharing.
by mongoliangirl
22 Jan 2010 at 00:34
My brother and I were crazy about Lincoln Logs like that. Also, I hope you don’t like me enough to keep me from the darkest corners of your mind.
by SciFi Dad
22 Jan 2010 at 00:46
I got into Lego again with the advent of Lego Star Wars (I get small minikits in my Christmas stocking); I know EXACTLY what you mean about that sound. EXACTLY.
I’d definitely be interested in the new url. I went through the same process in early 2007, so if you need some tips, let me know.
by Ginny
22 Jan 2010 at 01:25
Firstly, thank you so much for acknowledging the OCD among us, as that sound truly DOES strike fear in my heart. While I love the effect Lego has on my kids’ imaginations, it is a box full of plastic chaos.
Secondly, it must be something in the air. I came very close to pulling the plug on my own blog. Do what you have to do, and I sincerely hope I’m invited along for the ride. (I do so love the dark corners.)
by Cat
22 Jan 2010 at 01:43
The boy was a huge fan of Legos, and in trying to raise our kids with as little sexism as possible, we introduced the girl to them, but she never took them.
I have considered starting a completely anonymous blog as well, so I could talk about things I would never talk about in a forum read by my friends and family, but ultimately I am just too lazy.
I hope you send me your link and invite me along for the ride, but if you don’t, I understand.
by Here In Franklin
22 Jan 2010 at 02:21
As long as the dark corners don’t have snakes or bats,I’d love to be invited. But completely understand if you want to make it an orange-free zone.
Here In Franklin´s last blog ..When Did Children Become Breakable?
by rassles
22 Jan 2010 at 02:31
Just the thought of Legos makes me giddy and want to touch things.
rassles´s last blog ..Quilting and Grape Crush Are Like a Metaphor for Life Or Something
by Technobabe
22 Jan 2010 at 05:48
Ah, Legos. Before we moved here two years ago we lived about twenty minutes to Legoland in southern CA. Since my kids were grown I didn’t go there but my grandkids go with their folks. I do like many parts of your blog and I don’t know you in real life, so I am requesting to be part of your new anonymous blog. If you choose to include me you can let me know via email at codacici at gmail dot com. Thanks.
Technobabe´s last blog ..Bosses Can Be In The Terrible Twos Too!!!!
by courtney
22 Jan 2010 at 05:56
Oooh, I loved Legos.
E-mailing you for the new link now. I hope you’ll give it to me, although if you don’t, I suppose I could tell myself it’s because you like me too much.
courtney´s last blog ..A Burning Question of the Familial Kind
by Nathan B.
22 Jan 2010 at 07:18
There area some sweet Star Wars Legos out there now…
by Nichole
22 Jan 2010 at 09:15
The kids (and Alex) love Legos, but boy howdy do they drive me nuts. And I am not what you might call “tidy.” Just “irritable,” I think.
Nichole´s last blog ..Fixing a hole where no nutrients get in, or How the Beatles helped my daughter eat fruit
by Coal Miner's Granddaughter
22 Jan 2010 at 12:06
Bubba is always wanting us to build garages for his cars.
Legos and Duplos are so many kinds of awesome.
by The Unbearable Banishment
22 Jan 2010 at 12:16
I was always more of a silly putty kind of guy growing up. That and a Wham-O product called Super Stuff. I was oddly obsess with keeping it clean and dirt/particle free.
Can this stinking Yankee follow you to your next blog?
The Unbearable Banishment´s last blog ..500
by muskrat
22 Jan 2010 at 13:51
I wasn’t that big into legos, but a few of my friends were. I always thought they were a bit on the dork side, so I’m not surprised to see your affection for them here.
Incidentally, if you’d like to share the new URL, that’s cool…we’re FB friends, so you know my name and how to email me, etc. But if not, I can understand that, too. I’ll just burn you in effigy and piss on the hedges in Sanford stadium in retaliation.
muskrat´s last blog ..my spoiler-filled review of costa rica (part 1)
by Seattledad (Luke, I am Your Father)
22 Jan 2010 at 14:33
I only know you as a dad blogger, so I would want to keep reading. I like your posts.
Seattledad (Luke, I am Your Father)´s last blog ..Signs of ‘No’ Life
by Not Afraid To Use It
22 Jan 2010 at 15:01
And here I thought this was going to be a post about the dangers of Legos with a new one in the house. Obviously my paranoid parental tendencies are getting the best of me tonight.
I’d also like to submit my name for consideration for the new address list. If you’re cool with it, that is.
by ZenMom
22 Jan 2010 at 16:02
I’d like to come play in your new treehouse, if you’re so inclined.
ZenMom´s last blog ..It’s me again, Margaret …
by Trish
22 Jan 2010 at 17:49
I never understood why Americans added the ’s’ to the end of Lego. It’s just Lego, isn’t it? If you are going to raise your children to be Lego-loving Australians I’m going to have to insist you drop the ’s’.
I have no idea who you are or where you live but I have loved your blog in all its guises and I’d be chuffed to receive the link to the new one. Thanks.
by suzer
22 Jan 2010 at 18:17
You have me email – send me the link to the new blog, if ya don’t mind:)
suzer´s last blog ..Happy Birthday Shout Out
by kitty
22 Jan 2010 at 18:48
You don’t know me, and if you did you probably wouldn’t like me. I’d luuuurve to know the darkest corners of your mind, if you’re happy for me to have the URL

kitty´s last blog ..hello, are you fabulous?
by Monty
22 Jan 2010 at 18:57
I’m assuming you have my email. So do send the link, if you value your Asian following any.
Monty´s last blog ..Cradle Snatching
by Agnes
22 Jan 2010 at 22:18
“I never understood why Americans added the ’s’ to the end of Lego. It’s just Lego, isn’t it? If you are going to raise your children to be Lego-loving Australians I’m going to have to insist you drop the ’s’.”
Yes Trish!! Was thinking the exact same thing while scrolling through the comments. Couldn’t have said it better myself!
Agnes´s last blog ..and later we went out dancing
by Reluctant Blogger
22 Jan 2010 at 23:55
I have never understood the appeal of lego but my sons love it. If they ask me to help I just look at it in bewilderment and they have to tell me which pieces to put together.
I understand completely the anonymous blogging thing. I tried to run one connected to my Facebook page ie one that anyone could read including my mother and work colleagues etc and I just couldn’t write. Even when I wanted to write things that weren’t in the slightest emotional or personal I just had no flow. I ended up just posting photos with comments underneath ie it was just the same as writing on facebook, so I gave it up.
The trouble with anonymous blogging is that it quickly shifts back to known blogging as you build up a rapport with your readers and go on to meet them etc. Well, that’s what I found anyway but funnily enough it hasn’t stopped me being able to write.
Good luck with it. I’d love to read but since I’ve only just arrived here I will not be in the slightest bit offended to be exclused!
by Courtney
23 Jan 2010 at 00:44
Well I for one do not know you in real life and would love to keep reading your blog. I sometimes lament how many people know my blogging persona – some family, some friends – it definitely restricts my content for my blog. I am trying to look at that as a challenge right now because as a writer I definitely tend toward too much self-indulgence anyway, but I do harbor thoughts of a freer, snarkier blog someday…
Courtney´s last blog ..The Devil’s Punchbowl, Greg Iles
by sarala
23 Jan 2010 at 01:58
Love legoes, love the pics. I have a big basket of duplos at my office and every now and then I here that distinctive sound of clashing hard plastic. What joy!
I have more trouble with the new big lego sets since they seem to require you to follow their pattern. What about spontaneous and creative?
I keep my blog fairly anonymous. I use a pseudonym but if you worked very hard from my bio you could figure out that the blog was mine; so far no one I know has tried or bothered (that I’m aware of). I like it better that way. I also only post things that anyone could know just in case. I’ve had patients google me fairly often. I’ve realized it isn’t a diary-I wouldn’t post a fight with my husband or some awful detail from my past. Besides who would want to read that stuff? It is a balance though.
I’d miss you if you disappear so let me know if you want to share the secret blog with me.
sarala´s last blog ..Back to our regularly scheduled programming . . . .
by arizaphale
23 Jan 2010 at 10:36
The dark corners were what i liked to start with but I bet you won’t give me the new address

arizaphale´s last blog ..The Post Where I Catch Up On Everything…..
by Martin
23 Jan 2010 at 23:31
I had totally forgotten the appeal of lego, I didn’t think my childhood really was that far away in the past but it must be.
But, last Saturday it was all I could do to stop myself buying a huge tub of the stuff in a toy shop.
I’d love to read on, should that be ok.
(You know what REALLY irritates me, people you know, who read but pretend they don’t…)
Martin´s last blog ..Pool party
by Allie
24 Jan 2010 at 06:57
Oh! I would LOVE to read your new blog.
That sound of Legos really is one of the best sounds in the world. But I don’t know the best way to describe it either.
by Papa Bradstein
24 Jan 2010 at 07:29
Love Legos. My son hasn’t gotten too into them, but I think he may be a bit young for them. Perhaps if I showed him how to make a guitar from them, he’d like them better.
Papa Bradstein´s last blog ..Boring! Boots in bed and baby blues
by Nigel
24 Jan 2010 at 17:00
Like most, it sees, I too love lego. But I like the idea of an un-publicised blog even more: a place for the darkest corners of the mind on one of the darkest technologies around – the internet! I’m not particularly angling to end up being linked up with the thing, but I am intrigued to see how it goes. All the best for it. Cheers, Nigel
by busydad munbles
25 Jan 2010 at 00:42
Love Legos. As a world traveler the neatest place to go was to a place in Holland build entirely out of Legos. It was many years ago. Great place and a great toy.
Naming the sound! Plastic Thunder! Wonderful idea! Some of my closest friends would get each others children the mega pieces set. It was for the child! It was also the quiet version of getting the lovely little one a drum set! The sets got bigger until the spouses stepped in to call detente!
Please keep the dad blog coming. I have also learned about music from your blog that would never have come into my little world. All the best in what you decide!
by chris
25 Jan 2010 at 14:24
Ah the dark, dusty, spidery corners, I could us a place like that too. Not always dark of course, just a place to through around thoughts without explanation. Please forward info if you get it.
chris´s last blog ..Caption This
by mondraussie
26 Jan 2010 at 08:29
and i would like to be invited to the new blog too… if you want to that is!
mondraussie´s last blog ..chasing gaudí (and discovering other things along the way)…
by Joe
27 Jan 2010 at 13:05
I would, of course, love to read your new/other blog.
Tyler has the Mega-bloks right now. He keeps asking me to build stairs, or a garage for his firetruck. I am eagerly awaiting the day that I can hop on Craigslist and look for Duplo blocks.
Joe´s last blog ..Apple Tree Farm
by blues
29 Jan 2010 at 05:58
Can I be one of the privileged?
blues´s last blog ..Old doll, old wall, new window
by mjrc
31 Jan 2010 at 09:54
it’s an interesting position you find yourself in. in the olden days, we who like to write about the dark corners of our minds and such would simply have kept journals and never really expected anyone else to read them–we would have kept them tucked away and out of sight.
but now we are bloggers, we choose to share our innermost thoughts with the whole wide world, and for a while it seems very satisfying and there is definitely a particular kind of gratification in knowing that other people are actually reading your words.
and then it comes full circle again, and the “success” in having readers that we thought we craved becomes a hindrance, a limiting factor instead of a liberating one, and so we retreat once again.
very interesting, indeed.
i hope you’ll share your new url with me.
mjrc´s last blog ..Snow Job
by Martin Kono
11 Feb 2010 at 19:14
I also loved to play Lego in my early years (maybe I was not that small, but still small
). I remember those days when I created something without schematics, on my own. I was so proud.